Love and Money
by Edi Alvarez, MSc, CFP®
Contemplating
or just starting out on what you hope or expect to be a long-term relationship?
Speaking frankly about finances
is a difficult, yet important step, for most couples.
The secret to establishing a strong relationship is shared values, respect and
trust.
There are three documents you
need to review together as a first step in your new
relationship:
Yes, your credit reports are the
most telling descriptions of how a third party views how you handle money. The
goal is to be aware and to plan ahead. If there are problems, you ought to
resolve them before you get deep into your new lives.
Next, make a commitment to how you will both review your finances regularly and how you will handle all assets and
liabilities. It may help to handle this as a business meeting or do it
individually. At least twice a year review your goals against your current financial situation and adjust as needed.
Communication is critical in any relationship and failure to discuss
finances
is at the core of many failed relationships. It is a huge red flag if you are both ready to join your lives and yet you are
not able to discuss and plan for your financial
lives together.
If you need assistance consider talking with your parents, close
friends, counselor or your financial planner. If you
are considering counseling you should check to see if it is covered under your
benefit plan at work.
With good communication and planning your love can grow into a
long-term relationship as you share in life’s adventures.
Edi’s Recommendation
The PBS narrative by Geraldine Hilton and
Mileva Maric Einstein-Marity, titled “Einstein’s Wife.” It is a must see:
www.pbs.org/opb/einsteinswife/
When considering integrating your lives together have an open and honest discussion about your credit history, debt
load, income, retirement, savings, financial
goals in addition to the usual discussions about family and careers. There
really is no bliss in not knowing!
[Originally published in
sfAWIS Newsletter, vol
4 no 2, Spring 2007.]
© 2007 Edi Alvarez. All rights reserved.